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This post stems from some other blogs I read lately like Greatness or Simplicity and the one about abortions. Back in the day when I dated a guy based on his looks....I saw this handsome stallion who I could not keep my eyes off of while sipping on daiquiris hanging out at the daiquiri shop. It was always inside of me to get whatever it was I wanted and when I saw him ....Lawd have mercy! I had to have him. Needless to say before I left the daiquiri shop that night I got his number.

Over time we conversated, dated, became much closer than friends, met his mom, and so forth and so on. He was the guy of my dreams.... Very romantic and thoughtful, he would watch tv alone if I had to study for an exam being that it was my last year in college. He always encouraged me to study more and would be so kind to test me on the stuff I was studying. He made sure I stayed a straight A student.

Not only did he look good, the sex was good too. So good that one day while caught up in the heat of the moment the condom came off. WTF I said get it....he laughed and said no you get it. Finally he got it out of me and we laughed about it.

A week or two later he called while I was at work to make plans to go to the movies. I was happy to go because we was going to see a movie that just hit the theaters so we would see it the first day, cool with me. While on the phone planning our date, he asked out of the clear blue........when WAS your period supposed to come. I said I don't know. It really was the farthest thing from my mind. He went on to say I thought it should have came by now...not thinking I'm still like who the hell cares. You don't look forward to cramping, grouchiness, and all the yucky things that go along with having a period so why the hell are you rushing it. So I pull out the calendar and count the days from my last period. I said oh it WAS supposed to come last week. He said ok we finished up our conversation, confirmed the time of our date and got off the phone cause we both were at work.

That night I got home from work, freshened up and was ready to roll. I called him to see if he was off from work or on his way and he didn't answer. No big deal, maybe he haven't made it out of the building yet or something because he worked later than I did and sometimes he would be held up late closing the place down. Waited, waited, waited... called him back still no answer. Wow this wasn't like him, it was routine to call after we get off work. The night went by and still no word from him.

The next day I called him still no answer, no return calls. I left voicemails and still nothing. After the third day I was like WTH is he avoiding me, I was a bit confused. So I stopped calling his ass too.

A month and half went by and still we never spoke to each other since that day on the phone. I always thought in the back of mind what did I do or is he even alive. I always thought back to our last conversation so one day it struck me......wow my period still haven't arrived. So I went and bought a pregnancy test. And low and behold it was POSITIVE!

I contemplated on telling the loser. Hell by this time I had a new friend I had been conversating with (only conversations). So I called him and wow you won't believe it but he answered. He talked as if we just spoke to each other yesterday. I said "what's going on" he said oh nothing getting ready to go back to training. His fine ass played arena football. (I think that's what its called) So I said oh we need to talk, he said ok.

He came over as if this was the old days when we were kicking it. We laughed, talked, but I never told him about the pregnancy test. He asked had I been dating anyone, I said yeah I been talking to this guy on the phone. He said good cause he can be your baby daddy. WTF I said my baby daddy......he can't be my baby's dad because you are!

He went on to tell me how he didn't want to have anymore children (he said he had 1 daughter) because he needed to get himself straight financially, blah blah blah. He said this is your last year of college and you said you wanted to move away....I am not going to be babysitting for you. (deep breathe) I said fine. He said you can just have an abortion and I will pay for it, let me know when you want to go and I will take you there. WTF

I told that loser that I was not having an abortion because like some of you said before I do believe that everything happens for a reason. I always think back to the scripture in the bible that says (I knew you before you were put into your mother's womb) don't quote me, but its on those terms. So if thats the case I feel like God placed the baby there for his own reasons not mine nor his.

I thought... well I am almost finished school and I'll have a degree so I will be able to afford to take care of the child. I called him again on another occasion and told him that we could at least be friends for the sake of the baby and he blatantly told me DO NOT CALL ME AGAIN UNLESS YOU WANT MONEY FOR AN ABORTION! and hung up! I must admit I was shocked but I never cried, moped, or felt sorry for myself I have always considered myself to be a strong person.

I continued with the pregnancy, never called the loser again, and graduated from college the week after my daughter was born. After her arrival I called his mom to tell her all about her grand-daughter. She seemed happy and I told her I would come over after we both was able to leave the house. She said ok just call me. When that time came and I called they never answered the phone for me, as a matter of fact I called a few times and they never answered the phone again thanks to caller id. WOW! Still never bothered me.

I just thought now I see where her son got it from the whole damn family is crazy. So for the sake of my daughter I sent pictures to them including our number in case they one day decided that they wanted to be a part of her life. Needless to say she is 7 now.............and still no word from the loser!

I'm glad I matured faster than others my age. Although I was 27 I kept my head up never looked back and have been doing great ever since. My daughter.....she knows about that loser (I don't refer to him as one to her) but she also has a real father who loves her like she is his own and she calls him daddy because that's the only dad she knows. She will tell anyone that she has 2 dads but one of these days I will have to tell her this story....I may leave out a few parts but hey for the most part I will be honest with her.

That experience changed my life, I felt if a guy could be that heartless to abandon a woman who is pregnant with his child and knowingly not call to check on her or anything like that...he is not a man! I began to treat men differently after this experience. I never trusted a thing those losers had to say. I know all men are not alike but at that point in time you couldn't tell me any different. I'm just glad God sent the real man of my dreams and now my life is complete.

And this is my life....Shania Cion!