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After interviewing so many people, both men and women, about relationships and hearing their opinions on what makes or breaks a relationship, I got to thinking about what would kill it for me. I made a list and wanted to share.
- Lack of repect and consideration in the relationship
- Loss of friendship, fun, humor
- Lack of connection, stimulating and challenging conversation
- MONEY - if I had a guy that spent everything, had a huge amount of debt (that wasn't school related) or racked up credit card bills, there is no way in hell I would stay in that relationship. I would run. I don't want to be picking up someone else's bills or paying for their debt. I don't expect anyone to pick up my debt.
- Lack of sex, touching, kissing. I am sorry, but that is a basic necessity to me and if I am going to be with someone who doesn't want me, I would prefer to be single.
- The hidden unkept messy, filthy, dirty person.
- Someone who doesn't care about themselves to keep themselves in shape, or care about their overall health and wellness. Maybe this is shallow but, anything over 20 pounds I would loose all interest. On the flip side, skinny or TOO skinny is a deal breaker. I don't want to be with someone who's waste is smaller than mine.
These are my biggest pet peeves that would send me running.
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Login or register to post a commentI can't agree more with No.
I can't agree more with No. 6 on your list!
I once dated someone (who for the sake of anonymity will remain completely nameless here) and he had the filthiest apartment I have ever seen in my entire life! His bathtub looked like someone had died in it--seriously!!!
P.S. There were flies swarming around his kitty's food, because I don't think he ever changed it.....
That is just awful!
Are you serious. Yeah, I think you need to share a lot of salt with someone so you get a good sense of who they are and how they live.
I think No6 would be easy to
I think No6 would be easy to figure out before you got in too deep. Personal hygiene is a biggie for me. If you don't care enough about yourself to brush your teeth or bathe or shave, well, it's all downhill from there. A guy doesn't have to be excessive. I don't want someone who spends more time on his hair than I do. But I want to kiss you and touch you, please prepare accordingly! No5 is No1 for me along with the sense of humor, ability to have fun. I think respect and consideration come from having the above and loving each other. Iwant it all or nothing!
As for No7 that's a tough one. I'm very phyisically fit. I train really hard and enjoy it. My husband was an athlete in his younger days but hasn't had time for that lately. He's been back to the gym and the trainer and WANTS to work hard but that pizza at lunch time is always calling his name! "I'm hot, I'm tasty, eat me!" He just can't stop himself. He likes to play sports and you need to be fit for that, but he doesn't really enjoy the work it takes in a gym to get the body he wants. He looks great to me but what I'd really like is for him to be happy with himself. If you're not happy with yourself you're gonna make me miserable, don't want that.I'm okay with someone who doesn't have the perfect bod as long as he's happy with himself.
And I'd also add that I need someone supportive of my desire to pursue adventure in my life. If you just want to sit on the couch and watch TV, this is not gonna work. We don't need to be together 24/7 but if you don't wanna hike or mountain bike with me at least get up and do something else. And I agree, too skinny, no thanks!
In my own experience, No. 6
In my own experience, No. 6 is not always easy to figure out...I have met people who have been immaculate themselves, but once we got to their apartment, it's a whole other story!
It seemed like all the effort they exerted was for their appearance only--their living conditions didn't seem to matter at all!
I agree
I so agree about the "liking" yourself part. We all know if someone doesn't like themselves.......it is just down hill from there.
I don't like couch potatoes either. I need someone who challenges me to have fun and likes to do things. I go into deep depression when I am locked up for longs periods without social interaction!