Our first question was submitted by Stephanie, a 40-something year old woman who is planning on visiting an old friend and wants to know: Apart from being well groomed, is the Brazilian wax the norm now days? Is it necessary for me to really endure this pain?

Freda's Response:

First, I want to say this is a great question and it happens to be question that seems to be a topic of many conversations again and again and is less taboo than before. To trim or not to trim…..that is the question of the year. In fact, we were having this same discussion on New Years Eve and there were some great stories and interesting opinions from both men and women.Even the high school kids are trimming now days!

I happen to have just left Sandy, my nazi waxologist, who is solely responsible for defurring me. She always asks me every time I come in whether or not I want anything "off the top" and every time I emphatically respond, "NOOOOO." However, today we were discussing the Brazilian wax and she said that even if I begged her to remove all my hair from the down under that she would refuse too. She would not subject herself to my screams of torture and profanity while lying on her table. I have to admit, I find that I have said every swear word imaginable on her table as she is ripping the hairs out of my crotch.

She did tell me that more and more men are getting Brazilians too. I thought that was "weird." I don't know, but something about that is just weird to me. I mean no one wants to be with a gorilla, but, well, I don't know, I think there should be some hair. After all, we are supposed to have hair down there. But, that is just me.

I have been subjecting myself to this ritualistic torture for about four years now. That being said, I ONLY get the bikini wax and a little on the down low but not the "a-hole," if you know what I mean! My feeling is that why is anyone looking at my a-hole anyway? Really do I want anyone that close? Seriously, I have a sign that says, "HAUNTED," tattooed across my anus. I don't want to see "URanus" and I certainly don't want you to see my anus. Some things should just remain private, mysterious and secret. My father has always said, "Mystery is good." I mean really, what the hell are they looking down there for any way? Okay I am done.

Now, I do have a funny story that a friend of mine was telling me and maybe this is something to consider. She was once dating a guy who well, hmm hmm, liked to go down south...........a lot. However, instead of turning himself around so that his behind was in the opposite direction, away from her head, he would just flop himself around and his ass would be stuck up in the air--in her face. The picture I get is this man on all fours, and his big WHITE, HAIRY ass is just right there in her face. At this point we are all laughing our asses off when she says, "I try to close my eyes and re-focus, but all I want to do at this point is start laughing. I end up peeking through my eye to see if I am dreaming or not. Nope, I am not dreaming! Then he actually has the nerve to say that I don't like it, I can't relax and enjoy it. Seriously, does he have any clue? How can I relax and enjoy anything when I am staring down the brown eye." We think that that was his way of wanting her to reciprocate.

I compare this to getting a massage in a barn. Every time she tells this story, I can't help but to fall off of my chair laughing, I think it is so incredibly funny. Poor girl. Maybe in this case, there is a reason why you wax the ol’ "anus." Just a thought. I hear now days, some people actually get theirs bleached! They bleach the brown eye. WHAT IS UP WITH THAT??

Personally, I can only tolerate the bikini wax and I don't look like a baby when I leave, but it is just enough to obtain the feeling that you have gotten a haircut or sheered your mink and if you take scissors to it you can have a brillo bush, but either way you will no longer be sporting around the woolly mammoth, 70's retro-bush-when hair was still in look. I personally don't like hair much, with the exception of the lovely locks on my head, and try to get rid of as much as possible, but I am not into being bald either.

Secondly, I am incredibly sensitive and I find that if I go the day after I am done with my period, it is way more tolerable and less sensitive than any other time. When I am ovulating or close to my period, forget about it!

Third, don't go to someone who is afraid to get down and dirty. You want someone who is preferably foreign, has experience and isn't frightened by getting close to your muff. You don't want any little hairs left behind. Sandy is such a perfectionist that she insists on tweezing any leftover's out and I cringe and call her names. Out of everyone I went to, she is the absolute best.

To me it is worth the five minutes of pain because it feels refreshing and clean. I have never had the "Brazilian" done, but have many girlfriends who have and they just have a "landing strip" or a triangle or nothing at all. I prefer something rather than nothing. In this cold weather I prefer my beaver to have some fur and not be running around naked. Wouldn't want her to catch a cold!

Whatever you do, do it for you and because you want to do it. I think a bikini wax is just as beneficial and sexy as a Brazilian. It is a matter of personal choice at that point. Unless he is a porn star or a Latin lover and has a ton of experience, I don't think he is going to complain if you decide not to shear the whole coat. I am just guessing.

Christine's Response: To this question, there really is no right or wrong response. It's simply a matter of preference.

In my experience, when this subject has been mentioned in social circles, I've had friends who were horrified by people who do and alternatively, friends who are horrified by people who don't. It just comes down to what you feel comfortable with.

I think what is most amusing is something that Freda mentioned above--how this subject is quickly becoming less and less taboo to discuss. After all, you only have to take a quick look at our recent AlphaTube video post to see that this subject isn't even the most 'risque' type of body beautification that people now go for. Perhaps we have shows like 'Sex and the City' to credit for this, or perhaps, we're simply a lot more comfortable speaking about things of this nature than we have ever been before.

In the end, there's only one thing I'm certain of: the choice is yours.