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Today I was at the grocery store and was minding my own business coasting through the produce department in search of salad. When I finally spotted it, I proceeded over to pick my selection. I wasn't really paying attention as I was completely enraptured in my thoughts thinking about things that I needed to do, things I wanted to write about and appointments I had during the next week, when I accidentally walked in front of a guy and stepped on his foot. I looked over, apologized, smiled, picked up my lettuce and started to walk away. It was a two second interaction. Harmless? You would think no big deal, Right? WRONG!
As I was walking away, out of no where I hear him say to his girlfriend, wife, whoever she was........."Technically she looked at me."
I couldn't get over it. Are you kidding me? Mind you, I am in sweats, haven't showered all day, have a beautiful body odor "scent" about me and she thinks I was checking out her man. I mean he was cute, but honestly, that was the farthest thing from my mind. For goodness sakes, I'm grocery shopping!
I hope that when I do find my "Mr. Big," that I am not that insecure with myself that I will constantly be questioning his "glances." I mean shit, I am human. I look too. He wasn't obnoxious or glaring at me.
What was worse is that I went on my way only to run into them ten minutes later and now it was down right weird. She was glaring at me like I was going to try and steal her man right there in the dog food aisle. Yeah Right!
If you are really that insecure about your relationship, than maybe you need to question the relationship or seriously tend to your insecurities. I couldn't imagine dating, let alone being married to someone who is that insecure!
Even if I was out and out hitting on the guy, she should trust him enough to know that he is committed to her regardless if some bimbo has the balls to make the moves on him in front of her! I hope I never, ever become one of those women who is always checking out other women in the grocery store to see how she measures up. I would hate to be with a man who made me feel that I had to be always "on."
Sometimes the supermarket becomes like the runway of a fashion show with women dressed to the hilt to purchase eggs, milk, and shampoo. In fact, in this months issue of Psychology Today they actually have an article on Anorexia and how it is "competition gone haywire." Whose attention are these women fighting for? Is it a man's or is it about outdoing another woman?
Hmmm.
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you're right - the woman in the grocery store was nuts - if she's that insecure in her relationship, then she needs a new relationship
Interesting comment on anorexia though - I'm going to see if I can find that article - because in Hollywood especially - there definitely seems to be a "Who is the skinniest" competition
and as a mother of a six year old daughter it scares the beejezus out of me
This Months Issue
It is in the latest issue of Psychology Today. I just picked it up at the grocery store because there are several really interesting topics they are discussing this month.
Oh, I raised a boy, I can't imagine how hard it has to be to raise little girls in this day and age. Uggh.
Lots of tender loving care, be very open, very open as the world is changing so much. Never, ever stop telling them what you think and what your values are.
I know with my son, he will fight me tooth and nail and I just keep telling him what I think and it never fails, that innervoice of me talking to hiim, always wins.
It was the same way with my parents and still is today. When you really care about someone, they really have a tremendous amount of influence on our inner voice and when it comes down to making tough decisions. Don't be a friend, be a parent. I tell my son that still and he is 16. I tell him, we won't be friends until he is 21.
He gets it. He loves me for it. It comes across in many conversations when he just says I am glad that you care about me so much mom.
I have read some of your posts on your site, LOVE THEM. You are very interesting. I love it! Thanks for taking the time to write all those posts for women. They are very informative.
My dad just set some huge medical equipment a month ago here in Chicago for a large hospital that is researching cell phones and cancer and if there is any correlation. Interesting that you wrote about that!
I saw that picture of you
I saw that picture of you and your 16 year old - he's such a cutie - I have a 15 year old boy - I have no idea how to deal with teenagers - it is truly a day by day experience.
With my little girl, she is so confident that I just love it - she is in charge of the world! but I am so nervous for her future - there is so much pressure on women - and the physical parameters that we're supposed to meet are impossible - did you see Tara Reid on the covers of the latest rags - she is skin and bones, can't weigh more then 90 pounds - and people are asking if this is "bordering" on dangerous
o.k. rant off