Last week's poll Have You Tried Anal Sex had a huge response! Over 40% of you said, "More! More! More" to having anal sex, followed closely with a little over 30% of the voters saying "No Entry!"

In this week's Straight Talk we are discussing a subject that seems to be something that's on the minds of many of our readers...Swinging! Take our latest poll: Are You Open To Swinging With Other Couples?

"My S/O is very intrigued about swinging or having a fling with another couple. I'm not so sure about this..." -Curious Carol

Swinging isn't anything new but it seems to be gaining popularity among couples of all ages. It can be viewed as a purely recreational activity like a bowling league or maybe it's just an activity used to enhance a couple's sex life without actually "cheating" on their partner. Whether you've tried this, thought about it or are completely repulsed by the idea of sharing your partner, read the variety of answers here in Straight Talk and then take a look at Dr. Joy Davidson's Video "A Couple's Guide to Swinging" .

FREDA SAYS: Ahhh swinging. Swinging from what? The roof tops, the hill tops, the swings at the park? Really, I don't know what that means. Yes, I know that is when you have an open marriage and each partner is allowed to cheat with permission. I JUST DON'T GET IT. I am not going to try and be politically correct here or even polite. Seriously, why get married or even bother with a relationship? I didn't share my toys when I was younger and I am NOT about to start sharing now! I think this is ridiculous and personally I think there is something fundamentally wrong with your marriage when you are okay with sharing your partner. Again, I JUST DON'T GET IT! If I am thinking about sleeping with someone else, it means I have lost my interest in the person I am with but before I cheat on him or step out or whatever, I am going to break it off with him.

If my significant other, husband or lover asked me to swing or wanted to swap partners I would have to say that would be a done deal for me. We would have a huge disconnect in our relationship and I would kindly just say "This isn't for me!" I would be really concerned if we were married. I just think it is weird. What about diseases? If you have kids how do you explain that to your kids? My verdict is I would rather try anal sex than swing! There you have it straight from Freda's mouth.

SEARAH SAYS: Swinging, while certainly not everyone's cup of tea, is pretty normal. Most people don't stop finding other people hot just because they are in a relationship (even if it is a fantastic one) and let's be honest, our culture right now makes three-ways, swinging and whatnot seem like the ultimate fantasy. I can't say exactly why your S/O wants to have sex with another woman and have you have sex with another man, but it is an extremely common fantasy, especially for men. Some guys find watching their partner with another man (or woman) is super hot to watch. And some people, I think, want to swing because they want to experience sex with another person, but they don't want to cheat and this kinda of gets them off the hook.

That said, it is totally normal to NOT want swing. Sharing your partner is not something most people can do without issues of jealousy coming up. Even people who are in open relationships (which I theoretically am) don't always have an easy time of sharing (which I don't), but if both people are into it, it can be extremely powerful and fulfilling. That said, don't do it if you don't want to! It will most likely be a really bad experience if you aren't honestly on board. Talk to your S/O and ask him why he wants to do it. Mostly likely you'll find it is just another fantasy of his, not an indication that something is wrong with you or the relationship.

And there are ways to explore that fantasy without actually getting another couple involved. Read naughty stories together (Three-way by Alison Tyler is a great one!) play dress up and be a totally different "you". If watching you with another guy is part of his turn on, get a realistic dildo and have him watch you use it while telling him what this other guy is doing to you.

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GABE SAYS: If your partner wants to swing and you don’t, you have major problems. This is a lifestyle choice, not a simple decision of who’s on top. If it’s that important to your partner and you’re unwilling to go with the flow, then you need to find a new partner. Not being familiar with swinging beyond some friends who do and watching documentaries on cable TV, I’d venture to guess that your partner still loves you, he/she just wants to experiment and share the experience with you. That’s only natural, you are a couple. I usually want to share new experiences with the women I date. As for swinging being normal, that’s a philosophical question that can’t be answered easily.

As usual I recommend you have an open dialogue with your partner and find out why s/he wants to try swinging, how serious s/he is about it, and how important it is. You may find out s/he really doesn’t want to but just wants to see your reaction. Or s/he is willing to give up that fantasy for the sake of keeping you. Maybe you offer-up another, reasonable, more comfortable fantasy. S/he may be grateful for the honesty.

FEATHERMAYE SAYS: I think 'normal' is a very subjective term and I can't answer what is normal for you and your S/O.

In my experience, though, the swinging lifestyle addresses many kinks: A live-action thrill from watching other people have sex (an evolution of the multi-zillion dollar porn industry), the thrill of having an audience watching you, and the occasional piece of strange can all find a place with swingers. There are private clubs all over the world that cater strictly to swingers--and mostly couples only! Beyond that,though, and to address your questions about WHY your S/O could want this...

Assuming you already have a pretty hot sex life, I can only imagine that as turned on as your S/O gets while he's having sex with you, he figures that watching you work your magic on someone else would be mind-blowing, both for him AND for the guy he's deemed lucky enough to share you. Furthering that thought, he's probably figuring the same in reverse, for him and another woman.

If, however, sex isn't something y'all have got figured out between you to a level that you trust bringing other bodies into the mix, then I would suggest you spend a lot of time discussing the reasons why this has come up before agreeing to enter into anything new. Swinging should only be used as an enhancement to an already great sex life, rather than as an escape from one that is less than satisfying. And if you both aren't ready to jump in feet first, then it shouldn't happen at all.

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We hope we've given you some insight on the subject of swinging....next week we'll be venturing onto the hot topics of Home Pornography and Phone Sex!

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